Should I leave my husband we dont have a connection? ?

We have been married 3 years. He owns his own company and all of his energy, attention goes towards that. We have gone to couseling and they have told him many many times to schedule alone time with me. That he has to work at it as hard as he does his business. He applied maybe 25% of what they said. He doesnt want to go anymore yet says he loves me and wants things to work. However he is not sure how to do that? I asked him if he thought a divorce was the answer and he said he is not sure. He always finds time to do what he wants when its about him. I feel he wants me to initiate it, but when I tell him that, he says "if I wanted to end things I would. I love you I just dont know how to make it work" It is like walking on egg shells. He is moody at times and quiet. A while back his personal counselor told him he was at a crossroads in his life (basically he needed to step to the other side and grow up) and was having a hard time. He is 33 but is an only child, very educated, smart but when it comes to every day life, a bit clueless. Not capable of empathy towards me yet for other people he is charming and the greatest talker listener?? You could say he is a bit selfish. B4 we got married, we said we would have kids latest when i was 34. I am 35 and he is not ready. He wants to go to lawschool now. I said well thats at least another 4 years? I am not trying to be 40 with my first child! He said "well when we got married I was not sure who I was. I am now beginning to find that out" Thats great and all but what am I supposed to do with this infromation? I question if I should get divorced. I dont know what else to do here. I just know I dont want to miss out on being a mother and good wife.